Shame is a relationship killer. When you can’t own your own shame pain, you are likely to pass it on to others.
Feel bad that you can’t be there for your friend who is suffering? You could choose to share your feelings of inadequacy and discomfort or you could shame them for not being able to handle it. The first way connects and opens your heart, the other closes it.
It’s not just relationship with other people that’s harmed. When we are full of shame and don’t acknowledge it, we can ruin the relationship with have with ourselves. This comes in the form of self-sabotage, unhealthy eating habits, and self-criticism.
Before you shame someone for being passive aggressive, having ADHD or test anxiety, embrace your own fears and insecurities, and inform yourself on what it’s like by reading our posts below.
24 Signs of a Passive Aggressive Person
(Anger Management) – The first step in changing a behavior is to be aware of it. If you are doing any one of these things, you might need to change your passive aggressive behavior.
9 Signs You Are With The Wrong Person
(Dysfunction Interrupted) – Being in a toxic relationship is worse than not being in a relationship. But how do you know if you’re in a dysfunctional one? Read these signs.
How to Practice Gratitude When You’re Feeling Discouraged
(Happily Imperfect) – How can you possibly feel grateful in the midst of your stress-filled life? After reading this, you’ll ask yourself, “How can I not?”
5 Tips for Working With Someone With ADHD
(ADHD Millennial) – It’s great you want to bring out the best in the people you work with. This might include someone with ADHD. If so, you’ll want to read this.
10 Tips to Bust Test Anxiety According to Science (Infographic)
(Stress Better) – An important test is coming up. How do you manage your performance anxiety? Try this.
from World of Psychology http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2016/11/18/best-of-our-blogs-november-18-2016/
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