One of the reasons we dread family gatherings is we can’t forget what happened last year. Your uncle’s insensitive remark. Your mother’s judgmental words. And that hurtful thing your cousin said.
Part of you is still seething. Another part is afraid of being hurt again. After all, one of the reasons why you fear intimacy is because of experiences like that.
It’s so tempting on a daily basis to be defensive, and not risk sharing ourselves.
But while being vulnerable to toxic and insensitive people is not the wisest thing, closing up is not the best either.
While you’re attending events and going through your day, remember this. Everyone you meet has similar fears than you. Most people desire the same things you do. And all of us, just want to be heard, accepted and loved.
This may not be the secret recipe to cure your holiday family hangover, but let it at least be a balm. When painful words are spoken, be kind to others and most importantly, be kind to yourself.
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(Childhood Emotional Neglect) – As a child, you were taught what you think and feel doesn’t matter. This is your story and a result of growing up emotionally neglected.
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(Narcissism Meets Normalcy) – How can a post on forgiveness, and memes on family and love be evidence of a narcissistic person? Lenora explains here.
Five Strategies For Dealing With Toxic People
(Leveraging Adversity) – It’s the post you need to survive through the holidays and beyond. If you’ve wondered how to deal with that hurtful and critical relative, this is it.
7 Types of Parental Abuse
(The Exhausted Woman) – Parental abuse comes in many forms. Read this if you suspect a child has been abused.
5 Ways to Teach a Child to be Mindful During an Ordinary Day
(Stress Better) – The ordinary days are best for practicing mindfulness. Here is a guide to helping your child learn to be more mindful.
from World of Psychology http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2016/12/06/best-of-our-blogs-december-6-2016/
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