Have you ever been surprised by the level of emotion you felt from a seemingly benign situation?
Maybe you caught yourself overreacting to someone cutting you off in traffic or you bit your partner’s head off for forgetting to take out the trash.
When things simmer, you’re embarrassed, surprised and apologetic for your reaction.
We’re usually triggered because something deeper is bothering us. That’s why we’re shocked by the outcry. Maybe we’ve bottled up our own feelings for awhile now and instead of expressing or dealing with it, we’ve been stuffing it down. A wrong word or misunderstanding can bump up against a wound we haven’t yet healed.
Letting things cool and reflecting on the experience can give us insight into why we said what we did and can alert us to the areas in our life that need our attention.
This week, our posts provide closure for past mistakes, help if your issues with control is getting out of control and concrete advice on how to implement more positive change in your life.
Adult Children of Alcoholics and the Need to Feel In Control
(Happily Imperfect) – Do you always need to be in control? This therapist explains what your perfectionism, inflexibility and nagging has to do with your upbringing and what you can do about it now.
Use Self-Monitoring to Change Your Life
(Childhood Emotional Neglect) – It’s the one thing you can do to start eliminating the things you don’t want (e.g. yelling at your kids and eating too much sweets) and engaging in things you do.
The Narcissist and the Speeding Ticket
(Narcissism Meets Normalcy) – Narcissism affects everything in a person’s life and everyone else they run into. This illustrates what happens when he or she runs into the law.
10 Psychological Benefits to Moving
(The Exhausted Woman) – Moving is a pain. But there are some surprising benefits. This will help motivate you if you’re currently suffering through the process.
When to Give Up on Forgiveness
(NLP Discoveries) – You’ve made amends. You’ve right your wrongs. Do you deserve to be forgiven?
from World of Psychology https://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2017/04/11/best-of-our-blogs-april-11-2017/
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