I love what Judith Orloff, MD says in her book The Empath’s Survival Guide about protecting yourself from toxic people. In addition to setting boundaries and politely saying, “No,” she confesses times when she left situations that didn’t feel good to her:
“It was awkward, but I chose my well-being over ‘social correctedness,’ and sticking it out.”
Many of us don’t speak up or set boundaries because we’re afraid of the social repercussions. The aftermath of not listening to ourselves, however, has detrimental consequences. It can affect our physical and mental health when we do things to please others or can’t say, “No” to unhealthy situations and relationships. But it is also a form of self-abandonment.
The next time you encounter a potentially toxic situation, be clear about the decision you’re making. Will you choose to be there for others or yourself?
The Cumulative Effect of Narcissistic Abuse
(Narcissism Meets Normalcy) – It’s not the isolated incident that’s unforgivable, it’s the lifetime of abuse that makes it difficult to forgive. Only those who have been victimized understand the detrimental effects of narcissistic abuse.
Alexithymia: The Cause and The Solution
(Childhood Emotional Neglect) – It’s the problem you don’t hear about, but could be damaging your relationships. Read what causes alexithymia and what you can do about it.
How Self-Compassion Can Help You Heal Your Inner Critic
(Happily Imperfect) – It’s the one thing you can do to finally end your negative self-talk for good.
5 Things An Unloved Daughter Feels in Childhood
(Knotted) – If you think being unloved as a child didn’t affect you, you need to read this.
What It Means When a Narcissist Says “I Love You”
(Neuroscience & Relationships) – This letter from a narcissist will change the way you view the narcissist in your life.
from World of Psychology https://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2017/06/06/best-of-our-blogs-june-6-2017/
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